How many of you have plenty of money flowing into your life on an ongoing basis?
If you don’t, read on. As a psychotherapist and business coach, I’ve helped hundreds of people heal emotional pain so they can lead deeply fulfilling lives. Along the way, money issues invariably come up as part of their emotional struggle.
The truth is that money issues are never really about money. It is the meaning of money that elicits an emotional response.
If you’re not happy with your relationship with money, its time to make changes. Visualizing success can be helpful, but it’s really only a partial approach.
Generalizing, women tend to play small and contracted around money that represents not standing in their power.
Feeling contracted around money includes scarcity, deprivation, and fear of there not ever being enough. In contrast, feeling expansive is about being in flow, at peace, joyful, and trusting in sufficiency.
There’s no right or wrong when it comes to feeling either expansive or contractive. Nor does it help to imagine that simply being expansive all the time will solve your financial woes.
The key resides in uncovering your money mindset (which took root in childhood) and developing a new mindset that will allow you to increasingly relate to money from a place of expansion.
To help you get started, here are some helpful questions. Be gentle with yourself and don’t expect instant change. I can tell you that if you are consistent and persistent then you can begin to shift your money mindset.
When you feel yourself “wince” around money, ask yourself:
• What is the underlying feeling? (e.g. anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, shame, guilt)
• What is the deeper message? (e.g. “I’m not enough”)
• What if that were no longer important to you today?
• How could you deal with the situation differently now?
• OnFire Alyse Parise LCSW, Psychotherapist
and Certified Business Coach, 631-689-6272
alyseparise@poweroutcomes.com