Your wife works hard. She is the mother of your children and the other earner for your household. She comes home tired, but carries on to prepare your dinner and clean your house. What she really deserves is a complete spa day and a getaway to Paris. But unfortunately, that vision isn't realistic. So what can you do to show she is appreciated and give her the break she deserves? Let me give you some suggestions.
One of the prime things you must understand is that you shouldn't wait exclusively for special occasions to treat her. She needs regular pampering in order to feel treasured. So be prepared to meet her needs on any particularly hard day--or "just because." She will remember your consideration.
If you haven't already, discover her "love language"--designations of the types of affection we value most, explained by professionals in the romantic field. There are books and quizzes which can help her pinpoint it if she isn't sure, and you can benefit from learning about your own, too.
Once you learn how best to express commitment and devotion to your mate, keep it in your memory and put it into constant practice. There's a good chance that until now, you have been trying to show her love in the way you best feel it, and there's also a chance that she has not appreciated your gestures. That's why you need to shift your thinking--and your actions.
Your wife needs time to herself to unwind, but don't forget that you can play a role in her relaxation as well. Purchase some luxury body lotion and give her a massage. If you have little experience doing so, then use the internet to learn some tips.
She will cherish natural spa products, but she'll cherish you even more if you share a bath with her to help her put these products to good use. Don't worry about your dignity when it comes to playing around with such natural spa products; you might even enjoy a quick rubdown with quality sugar scrub.
Above all, learn to listen to her. If you are willing to do so, then she will be equally willing to specifically communicate her needs. You are also bound to benefit by an outpouring of love on her behalf through increased intimacy, favors, chores, and whatever else you may need. Don't wait for her to take this action first; instead, take responsibility only for yourself and your personal ability to better your marriage. You won't regret it!