Many years she wakes up to how fast time had flown through the breezes she felt on her face at the ocean. She was going to have all her dreams come true. Oh she was excited, life was beginning finally today the end of High School, finally!
She is older now and she sees things she didn't before through mature eyes some experiences causing pain and growth and unhealthy choices. Until she find the life she shares here. She had a drinking problem and she had a drug problem. She lived most of her life free of these behaviors that caused loss of memory and endless days of not knowing what someone was going to say when she saw them. This man here he took her to a place she wasn't sure she could exist, only to find out she fits perfect right where she is now.
You and I are the same, our souls have substance, we are all great men & woman, and we enjoy a nice place sitting in our morning chair in the sun feeling the warmth promising spring is almost here. This is the way of our plant (universes) of saying hello early in the morning. When we were younger our thoughts would be: how long before I see my dreams come to fruition in my lifetime. We wake up one day and come to see the blessings of those desires being present in our life experiences. It is deep we know deep down inside that it is a gift given to us. Our children they become our gifts and we hold them dear. In all our demands to make sure they have the most important skills to live successfully in this world we over load them with information to assist in every situation life brings. It is with our hearts we share everything that is good for them. We would never purposely give them ill directions or wishes. We sometimes get too excited when they realize their hard work is now theirs granting the rewards of accomplishment. It is so exciting we pick up the phone and we share the news of our daughter or sons accomplishments their arrival at their intended destination, we praise the joy for them for the following through making the commitment of that dream being realized. We then gather friends and family and celebrate in their hard work well done. Our life teaches us many things as parents. Our son or daughter having hard times with life situations; we let them know we love them and are here to support them. Our hearts ache with sadness for the pain they are going through. It is our position to stand by their side and support them no matter what. To be the loving and giving parent we need to let them weather their storms, being there beside them. Giving them the encouragement with the hand on their shoulder (a hug and a smile, the look of understanding on my face and showing them they are strong and have their answers, they have my faith letting them know we are here for support. When they say to me what am I going to do? I stop myself (I hope and pray to always) say do you have the things you need to find the answer you know inside yourself. What is the end result you are working to obtain? This is with love I speak. If it is monetary I have to decide is this appropriate to offer this to them? Is it to meet them half way due to they need some monetary assistance. Will they learn their personal responsibility for the upcoming life lessons? Will they better prepare for the future emergencies? It is in their showing up and bringing forward what they have without hesitating, we see them as responsible and if it is within our ability we most likely assist their present circumstances. This I do with no expectations in return. I must let that be their decision on how they receive my support. I know that this is the desired outcomes; it is sometimes our reality with our youth. We will be blessed with many different characteristics in all our children, youth and adult children. It will be certain they will all have their own desires and goals this is their way of being an individual in the family. We have the carefree and consciously aware that it is less hassle to blow caution to the wind. This may be a way of behaving for our youth. It is thought that is the way to do things now, I tried the other way and it doesn’t work for me. This is what is known as an arrival of understanding of one self their belief at this time (necessary) this is where they are on their journey of learning what and who they truly are individually. This road can take many turns, sometimes they have roll overs and they continue to roll over until they realize it is them in control of their destination. Our hearts wish is for them to arrive safely. In some cases we can get really tired and decide we need to step away and breathe. That is okay too. We need to care for ourselves and refuel our strengths. While we are taking care of ourselves life continues to go on forward for all. We may decide to address our child and inquire on how they are doing. This is the endless love of the parent saying I love you, I am here, just coming back to see if there is anything I can help with the support your situation or plans. Some resistance may be present for our child, some blame for stepping back and refueling. That is not for us to take to heart, it is for us to see them as getting they legs strong underneath to hold them up. They will or will not come to us during, after this time of learning in their life. It is just for support and belief in them; we must stay calm and unblemished by unwelcome responses. It is normal for our child to retreat back to the days of being our child and engage in the emotions of that time they felt affirmed of our love and protection for them. We need to be learning our lesson in all this, we are the pilot in their lives for some time, then we need to be their passenger and enjoy what we can and affirm our love all the while. It is through trial and error we are supporting our youth with love and understanding. We do not pass judgments for they judge themselves harshly enough, we need to give affirmations acknowledging their accomplishment toward the main completion of their lesson. We are in need to only giving support and standing with them showing our faith and strength of belief in their abilities to find the resolution that will be most beneficial for them standing present beside them. The hug or the smile, taking a break to eat (refuel, quiet the thoughts) introducing small introductions that will assist in their issues. It may be something they need to do and just breathe and eat nourishes their brains, this is for us and for them, and they are showing up facing their situation. We aid in our acceptance that it is their experience and we can watch closely, not to interrupt the process they are molding for future situations to grow. This standing by and observing the steps to the completion and end of the situation letting them grow to feel their strengths by allowing them their confidence and self-forgiveness lesson they experience in the final results being displayed in their mind in their interpretations of what is their reality. If we teach one thing it is to love unconditionally and support our loved ones, not sharing any negative thoughts or opinions of the situation or issues. I have God my Father he is my only Father I love and trust unconditionally. I believe he is my teacher and I have many more lessons in life to learn. One I know first front and center is how I love myself will be how I learn and grow” my Father loves me and he wants me to grow! I have found myself in many situations with issues more than I would like to unfold. It is cheating me to avoid the unfolding of these difficult situations. It is sheer utter fear to admit to myself I have behaved in a manor I am not proud. It is acceptable to be self-disappointed, it is imperative to learn self-forgiveness. My Father he forgives me and he sees my lessons as they are just that my lessons without a harsh judging heart. Now is the time for me to learn this important life sustaining lessons of love, true love shown for me by my Father and Mother, it is for me to engage in the joy of that love and to feel that love for myself. Knowing they have taught me the value in being the blessing of their love and caring to teach their child self-acceptance and unconditional forgiveness to be accountable and accept the truth about myself. To improve and make choices other than the one that did not bring comfort? My lesson to accept it wasn’t the uncomfortable decision it was the choice to make that move even with the knowledge that I will be unpleased at some point by this action. It is the heart felt desire of my Father to be less impulsive, less emotional driven choices, less” I don’t care” no one will know. That is not true, I will know! Then I will find in the lesson my need to unload my issue being too heavy to hold onto. In having to share my knowledge that no one else knows in order to heal (feel Honest with myself) and move past it to grow in learning and understanding it is okay to make a choice that isn’t great so long as we learn and try not to engage in that choice this is how ( efforts to change behaviors that way on my conscious) to mature to the healthy well rounded person we are supposed to continue to learn the lessons and lesson the uncomfortable outcomes through the maturity to know, think, wait and then decide. Is this going to be something I am proud of or is it selfish and self-seeking behavior to avoid what is really happening inside me? If I am running away from my responsibility to myself to grow, I can guarantee my lessons will be there when I stop running. I have a choice to where I am in my present right now while the issues are here. Will I still hold that authority when I stop running? Will I be stopped by powers over my own being they may be welcomed or not welcomed? Then I may have more weight to carrying with the actions they expect me to follow through or be responsible for the outcome. It is the choice in the present that gives us the power to be the navigators of our final destinations when we truly know better we do better is the lesson some learn. It is in the devotional and unconditional love my Father and Mother have showed for me. This is how I learn to treat myself and others. In that treatment I experienced and learned I will learn how to treat myself and others . It is our wish for all people to have the best of their parents and modeling one size fits for all. In our life times we all have different situations that can shape us and mold us. This is never permanent for everyone is deserving of love for themselves and others. We went to school and we did learn how to write and read some of us. It happen and we woke up in our minds to our mind and hand or eyes doing what they were taught to do. So If you wake up and see you are doing what is in front of you, no matter where you see it. If this is not a law abiding behavior, being of the world and living in the world we need to take notice. If we do not know how to do things differently, we can find in a coach the unconditional support and trials and errors to learn our own truth that is acceptable and comforting to our fulfillment as youth to realize we are worthy of more, of the unknown for some. It is those with the most character that God gives the most challenges, He knows you can handle it so he introduces you to someone that will support your efforts to becoming what your journey will reveal too you. The desired outcome will be yours fulfilled that we can promise. Honesty with ourselves is the first one of the keys we will find in our pockets our tools to unlock the way to a new life. Then I am challenged to do what is next that I need to learn and the import messages to love myself first and have the action behavior to be kind, understanding, compassionate, forgiving and patience’s with myself It is only through truly loving who I am and what I am trying to achieve that I am able to give this love to others in the same depth of true belief in with my love to the way and strength to being loving of myself and others! This is that time I need to be willing to aid in their journey to growth and be the student alongside my friend witnessing their lesson learned. We appreciate our friends and are considerate to their needs for us to be there in support. We respect ourselves so off to work we go. Life is a gift and we love our gift. We don't look at each other through judgmental eyes, for our Sister Saint Theresa was the most loving of all humans and giving all of her love to everyone unconditionally she was the only living Saint in my time here.